I'm not Keith, but...

... I did tell my fiancée about my attraction to boys. I figured she knew already from the things I like and the way I act, but I guess I was wrong. When I finally sat her down to tell her on my front porch swing, I started off by mentioning that I like kids (to which she said, "I know that") and I really like boys ("I know that, too. So what's the big deal?"). I was instantly relieved until it quickly became clear to me that she didn't fully understand what I was saying. I told her that I was attracted to boys, and she became very sober and silent. I will spare you from the unbelievable range of emotions we both (and especially she) went through. Let me just say that after much explanation, soul baring, and crying (by her, not me), she finally came to accept that I am this way, and she offered her help in any way she can. This is not to say that she understood my attraction or approved of it, but she came to understand that I don't think my attraction is wrong and she trusts me enough to give me the benefit of the doubt. I gave her Gary M. Frazier's book Return to Innocence to help her understand about the phenomenon of boylove, and I gave her some time to come to grips with it. She's still not completely kosher with it, but at least I can now be more open with her about my thoughts and feelings, and not be worried every time we watch a "boy movie" whether or not she has guessed about the way I feel. She said it is too bad she loves me so much, because if not she could have simply left me when I told her, but now she has to deal with it and make our relationship and future marriage work. Some words to the wise, though. Don't have horribly bad timing like I did. I told her about this the day before we left to spend 12 hours in a car to drive to Florida to spend a week at a condo with my parents, of all people. I am such a DOLT! Also, give her time to come to grips with what you've told her before expecting a true reaction. Only tell someone you trust with your life, who if you tell them will not tell another soul even if they disapprove or break up with you, because it may just mean your life, or the life that you know anyway, if they do tell. Impress upon that person the importance of secrecy. Well, that's my two bits from my own experience. My fiancée is the only one I have ever told, and I hope she will remain the only one who will ever know. I just don't think I could have survived in a marriage that was not based on honesty, loyaly, trust, and unconditional love. I hope we're now on the right track to being closer to that in our upcoming marriage. ChoirBoy