stranger, Thank you for your encouraging words. I am finding this forum to be very helpful. I've never been able to talk about these things in such depth as I'm doing here. And the feedback has been great. I have been learning so much about myself in the last week, and I feel very hopeful about the strength that has been given me to overcome all the negative aspects associated with being a boylover. It impresses me that a non-boylover such as yourself would come here and be understanding to our "condition" -- or whatever it is, since we seem to not really know how it came about. The love and openness that you and your fiance show for each other is a good example of how things can be, and perhaps should be. That also gives me hope -- that a relationship such as yours is possible for someone such as me. Thank you again. By the way, I like how you called my young friend a "pseudo-stepson." This is often what I call him myself when telling others about him. You're the first person I've seen that has used the same term. But really, I like people to know that he was a friend for at least two or three years before becoming my "pseudo-stepson." And even then, he continued to be my friend, my disciple, my little brother in the Lord. ~Splash* |