Love!
Submitted by Once a boy on October 29 2000 21:35:46
In reply to A letter to the editor submitted by Dirk Gently on October 26 2000 00:13:11
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Thanks for sharing. At one time or another in life, I think everyone is isolated and feels all alone. A convicted sexual offender has the scarlet letter stamped on his (or her) head. Can they ever overcome the stamp of their mistake? Indeed, throughout the rest of their lives, they are alone. Who, on earth, will surround themselves with such a person? Who do the convicted lean on? Only God can bring one through the abandonment one feels from this world. I was in the valley, not because of being rejected by society, but by being forgotten by the world. At 11, I lost my family in a catastrophic accident. The tears of having lost everything in an instant created an emptiness, which after 3 years of darkness, finally made it possible for a great light to come. It is my belief that this being alone enters all lives. How do people deal with this "hole in their heart?" Some do drugs. Some sleep with others. Some obsessively involve themselves in their work. Some commit suicide. This time in the darkness is the time when our faith in God is truly tested. I pray God never allows me go down the road of darkness as described in the article, yet it is this isolation which makes us become stronger in our relationship with God by going through the wilderness. Our desires can sometimes create a lonliness in us, but it is God who we must pray for to help us....not drugs, not hiding, not killing ourselves, not acting on the desires...yet if we fail, we self destruct with drugs or a bullet to our head, or do some act unpleasing to God, are we codemed forever in the eyes of Jesus? Are we forgiven? Is God bigger than the hurts? At 11, I would have liked more adults to have gotten involved. There were some seeds that were planted, but too few to mention. If a man came into my life and loved me the way I have loved many children, it would have helped me in many ways. I, at times, have a great deal of anger at this world. God commands us to love, yet over and over again, we turn our backs and say, "I can't." I believe God brought me through for a reason, and I pray we, in this group, come to believe in our abilities to build a child up and not tear them down. Love, real love, prevents one from violating a minor. However to be honest, if I, at 11 or 12 had one who loved me, and it turned sexual, I don't believe I would have called it a crime. When one loves anyone there is the possibility of one "crossing" the line. About a year ago, a friend's wife came to love me and tempted me in many ways, yet I "stood tall." However, when love occurs, sexual relations do sometimes happen. I am not saying we should do this, but if it did, could you and the boy learn from your sin and the tears you shed? Finally, I believe most people who love someone deeply will not cross the line. I don't think you need to fear "crossing this line" if you read the Bible and pray as you develop a loving relationship with a child. God's word is powerful, and the miracles one sees as you help a boy are far greater and more enlightening than a sexual orgasm. I don't think there is a future in a sexual relationship with a boy. The lasting relationship occurs when there is love, God's blessing, and a spiritual bond that stands for eternity. I pray we get involved and work on making permanent bonds with children that are pleaing to God and that make the angels in heaven sing, "Halleluiah!" ~ Once a Boy |
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