On the other hand...

Does the fact that I'm a single heterosexual male mean that I should not spend time with women? The Christian boylovers that I have met in person all seem as committed to striving for holiness as I am. Yes, we all sin and fall short, but God also gives us the grace to resist temptations. I am no more likely to rape a woman than the typical boylover is to sexually abuse a boy. Yes, there are heterosexual rapists, just as there are "criminally active" paedophiles, and perhaps in exactly the same per capita ratio. The problem with your analogy of recovering alcoholics is that alcoholism clearly involves a whole host of factors, including but not limited to making the choice to drink, genetic factors, environmental factors, physical and psychological addiction, and behavioural dysfunction (hence the term "dry drunk"). It is quite true that some people are sexual addicts, but when talking to celibate boylovers, this doesn't seem to be the issue at hand. These guys aren't recovering sex fiends, they're men who are sexually and emotionally attracted to boys, in exactly the same way that I am to women. It's true that occasionally they get a little carried away and speak as if nobody really cares for boys except them, but I figure with all the crap that gets dumped on them by society and many Christians, they're entitled to a little bit of self-congratulatory rhetoric. Dirk