Re: Should fear prevent love from occuring?
Submitted by GCFBoi on December 06 2000 01:22:37
In reply to Should fear prevent love from occuring? submitted by Once a Boy on December 02 2000 15:02:00
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I totally agree with what you are saying about love, whether it is for a boy or anyone else. Of course it is good! I only wrote what I wrote, because I thought perhaps my previous comments could be construed as a little bit "idealistic" given the situation that the world is in. And also because I know that a few boylovers are in situations where they are under suspicion (even though that may not be true for most). Some of what I wrote is very hypothetical, or speculative (at least, I am writing my thoughts as they occur). But whatever. I am not ashamed of my feelings at all, I just want to make sure that everyone who reads what I've written, knows that the difference between love and (lustful) sex is clear to me, and that being in favor of the former, does not mean that one is in favor of the latter--however, the world often does not understand this, and so assumes that all of us who are not straight are having sex all the time. Well, it's just not like that for me anymore! After all the bad experiences I've had, the last thing I want to do is have sex with someone who I don't really love. Either I will remain celibate for the rest of my life, or if I am lucky, I may find a guy to share my life and love with someday (and believe me, if I do, he will be the only one!), but until then, I am content with my feelings, but only as long as they can be expressed in a spiritual way, and not get reduced into the kind of lust that I used to feel. Believe me, meanginless sex is just that--meaningless, and it's no better than being hooked on drugs. It can hurt a lot, but true love can heal!!! And whereas I once looked at other guys just as sex objects, I now look at them as friends. I still love men and boys, but what I feel for them now is completely different than it once was. |
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