Re: i would prefer you stay
Submitted by GCFboi on December 07 2000 00:09:59
In reply to i would prefer you stay submitted by Splash! on December 06 2000 02:55:50
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I agree with the "What is boylove" statement above. Having considered the history of the acceptance of adult homosexuality, I cannot see that the dynamics of boylove are all that different. It is a sexual orientation like any other, which just happens to incorporate age as a factor. There was a time in the past when gay men were arrested just for having sex with consenting adults (and it still happens once in a while). Gay men were labelled "perverts" and "sex offenders" too. They used to be called "homophiles", practically the same language as "pedophile". They were subjected to psychiatric "cures" and humiliation in the media and among their neighbors. So I think that society's condemnation of all boylovers is unwarranted. It's the exact same prejudice, just with a different label. Child molesters who violently rape or otherwise harm children against their will deserve whatever punishment they get, but I suspect the number of good, honest, caring boylovers, who are interested in befriending boys rather than abusing them, is much greater than the number of molesters. It's not fair to judge a whole group of people based on the actions of a few bad apples. (Not that I can't forgive child molesters, of course I can, they are human too, and people who make mistakes should still be offered forgiveness and a chance to set things right). But boylove is a cool concept. Given the choices between hating boys, being indifferent to boys, and loving boys, who wouldn't choose the last one? I don't understand why some people have such a hard time understanding boylove, when it is obvious to me how lovable boys are. And not only that, they need to be loved, since they are so often neglected in this world. People may like to think that boys have it better than girls, but it just doesn't work that way anymore. If there is any group that is misunderstood, it's boys. Boys are much more interesting and complex creatures than cultural stereotypes make them out to be. Just because they often don't TALK as much about their feelings, or about the same types of things, as girls do, doesn't mean that boys are wanting to be loved any less or that they are unworthy of attention....it's just that males have different ways of communicating than females, and different ways of showing love to each other. The best way to connect with a male is just to spend time with him; that is why I think boylove is a perfectly logical and reasonable concept. I really think, honestly, boys need caring adults in their lives to help them, besides their parents. So why wouldn't God create some people to have a natural desire to do this? What if the sexual part is just like, the icing on the cake? I think the mutual friendship and respect, and mentoring components are what is most important to the boy, probably (at least for teens). I hope someday people will see the potential for good that lies in boylove, and stop persecuting it. A lot of boys might actually be helped in that case, and a lot of men would finally have a chance to express the natural gifts that God has given them! When I was 18 and a senior in highschool, I volunteered to help out in a program for freshmen who needed help with their studies. There was one 14yo boy there who just thought I was the coolest guy he'd ever known. He told me that I really helped him, not just with his schoolwork, but to feel better about himself as a person. That meant a lot to me. I mean, honestly, boylove does work in real life, just as it worked out in ancient Greece. It worked, at least in a lot of the cases. It was a functional and healthy part of society, for them. Why can't we make it work again? Why can't we learn to accept relationships between adults and children, as being normal? These relationships certainly don't have to include sex, if that would be a harmful thing, but what if the boy wants it? Remember, when I was in jr. high and highschool, I was lusting after more than one of my teachers! If one of those men had offered, I probably would not have said no! But God knows what would have happened if the "authorities" had found out about my feelings. People make fun of NAMBLA because they think there is no such thing as a boy who is interested in men. Well, I'm here to say, it ain't so! So see, it is prejudice and close-mindedness that is making life difficult, not basic human nature, or se xuality, and not God. Maybe there are not many boys who love men, but I know there are, because I was one! I refuse to accept the notion that this is all somehow "perverted". I don't believe that. Love is love, and it's all good, as long as people are not hurting and abusing one another. |
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