All pain leads to death or life
Submitted by Once a Boy on December 10 2000 13:39:14
In reply to Re: By the way... submitted by mvanhouten on December 10 2000 11:34:05
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I think we all realize that kids realize the injustices. Everyone grows to understand that their parents are imperfect. Some parents do physically and sexually abouse their kids, and the child's welfare is at risk. Definitely, children, whose lives are in danger, should be removed from their homes. Unfortunately, if no one listens, most of these children do leave the home. They run away and often become our prostitutes and criminals in our city streets. However, most children are not in danger with their lives. At some times, all kids "hate" their parents. No parent is perfect and he/she cannot meet all of their kid's needs. The imperfections of a parent are what the child sees, yet giving a child the ability to leave (to run) in this case is contrary to what is truly important. The child must come to forgive their parents for being imperfect. This is the most difficult thing to do, to forgive those who have done us wrong, and indeed in every child's mind, their parents have done them wrong. However, for healing to occur and a deeper relationship with one's parents to occur, forgiveness must occcur. How can one become closer to others by running away? Finally, I am coming to believe that sometimes we are to stay in darkness so that we can see light. As an 11, 12, and 13 year old, I experienced much saddness and pain. At the time, I looked for comfort in sex and alcohol. Yet, through this, I began to learn that these things did not bring true comfort. In fact, as the addictions took over, they only made life worse. With nothing left, I cried out to God, and He heard my cry. In the end, I came to understand what truly matters in life. In a sense, by going through the fire, we all become stronger. Hopefully, we learn to have more compasssion and caring for our fellow man by having shed the same tears we all shed when we are in great pain and saddness. Unfortuantely, some children lash out or put up walls around their hearts to hide their feelings. They dirnk and have sex to escape the pain. They paint their hair green, put rings through their noses and other things to demonstrate their anger for the injusticies they have experienced. Some people do hear their voices; some do see the things others do not see with their eyes. God has given me a gift to see the tears. Injustices do indeed occur in children's lives, but in most cases, running away is not the answer. The sad thing is that some children go down a deadly slope; they start with pot and end with a heroine overdose. They die. They never learned that: Drinking brings on a high, but it is temporary. Sex brings on an orgasm, but it is only temporary. Winning a hockey game is only a temporary high. Earning a collge degree is only a temporary accomplishment. All of these things, and so much more (including looking for another to bring us happiness) are not able to bring true comfort. By going through things, we either learn what truly matters or we die (physically or spiritually). Childhood as a beautiful time is actually an illusion. Every child suffers to some degree, and many children are suffering a great deal. Yet, it is precisely this suffering that will make them come to realize the way to life. Every person dabbles in ways to escape the "pain" by working too much, watching too much t. v. and thousands of other things. Yet when we stop "running," we come to realize that there is indeed a great light in the darkness. ~Once a Boy P. S. This is where I am at this time in life. I respect you for where you are at this time in your life. I hope my words made some sort of sense. Basically, we are all on a spiritual journey. I just pray I take more steps forwards than backwards. I pray for people to build me up and not tear me down. And I pray to shine on despite the darkness that is all around. Read Matthew 11:28. |
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