but what are your beliefs?
Submitted by Splash! on December 18 2000 05:13:09
In reply to I will hold firm to my beliefs... submitted by Sprite on December 18 2000 03:37:59
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You say, "Sex really only has as much importance or complexity as you care to give it" in response to my saying that "sex is still too complex for me." And yet you appear to equate sex with love when saying, "I will happily stand before God, for I will only have loved, not used.." I'll grant that sex without love is very shallow, but when you suggest that sex has something equal with love (as I believe it should), then I still think sex is too complicated for a child to understand; thus, causing us (the adults) to be solely accountable for any sexual relationship we may have with a child. A child may be looking for sex, thinking this is the only way to get love, but is it realistic to believe that the child will be truly loved by the one who wants to have sex with him/her? When is it love? And in what circumstances will God not frown upon it? Maybe the child is just too inexperienced to know other ways of pursuing love; therefore, the child does not know enough to make a mature or learned decision. Who are we to know for sure whether the child is really seeking sex and not something else? To me, there are many ways to love a child -- sex not being one of them. But where does love and sex with a child overlap, according to you? And what are the boundaries, if any, when engaging in a sexual relationship with a child? When is it appropriate and when is it not appropriate? asb asked you similar questions. Please help us understand your view. You said, "If you're not as grown-up as some teens, that's your problem..." But how does a teenager know they are "grown-up" since they have yet to experience being a "grown-up"? Is that up to you (as someone who is older) to decide for them since they have no way to know for themself? What criteria do you use when you attempt to deduce that a teenager is doing the right thing when he/she wants to engage in a sexual relationship? I was once a teenager myself, and when I say that sex is still very complex for me, I'm not suggesting that I knew more when I was a teenager and have gotten dumber since then. On the contrary, I have learned quite a bit more since being a teenager, but sex still remains a complex issue for me (as a Christian, a heterosexual, a boylover, a fatherless child, an ex-boyfriend, etc.). I doubt anyone could or can ever decide for me when sex is appropriate. I'm not even sure I know myself. Much less, how can a child decide for him/herself when sex is appropriate? According to your view, it must be possible. All I ask is: How? And: When is it appropriate for an adult to fulfill a child's request for sexual activity? (Are we to assume that the child truly understands what he/she is asking?) ~Splash* |
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