Love the one your with!
Submitted by Once a Boy on January 04 2001 16:18:12
In reply to hope vs. acceptance submitted by Quidditch on January 04 2001 14:10:22
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Indeed, I have felt the same way about family. It would be nice to have a family. It may just happen for me. A gal at work (well actually there's two, but I like one) and I are on the verge of dating. I dated a girl from the time I was 20 til 24. I think it is possible to create a family despite some of these feelings we sometimes have. To be honest, I am sure there are heterosexual men who may see a girl 11-17 in a sexual way, yet they don't get swallowed up in grief. They don't act on the sexual desire eventhough it exists. These men still marry and have chilren. Actually, I thought some of us (the people who have been posting) have been married. It is NOT impossible to have both a wife, children, and a special focus on boys. When I was involved in the 4 year relationship, I don't remember thinking about boys. I did feel "energized" around two boys (Chris and Ryan) before meeting her, but after getting involved with her, I didn't think about boys. After breaking up, I got involved in Joe's life, and everything changed! Indeed, the love that we shared was something I found to be spiritual; a type of love I never expereinced before. Over the years, I have invested my energies in boys, but I recently have been discovering that although a boy can give me a "special" love, he can only do so much. I, like you, do desire a family, and in reading your post, I believe I will be persue this adult relationship. Don't just throw out the possibility of never having a family and be sad. There really is no need to be sad. If you enjoy boys, be with boys! I have, and I have been blessed because of it! Now, 35, I am "swinging" back to what I had 15 years ago. Don't put restrictions on your life or live in a box! Right now, if you love being with boys, be with boys. Enjoy the moments; treasure the moments with them. In time, there may be a new "urge" in you to do the family thing. I think this is happening within me! In so many things, in so many ways, we trap ourselves into being this or that. Life is ever changing! How can we believe we will always be this way or that way? How can we say we will ALWAYS love boys intenseley or NEVER love a woman? Life is change! There is a time and place for everything....Ecclesiastes 3:1-8. I think we sometimes get down because we restrict ourselves, our thinking. Whatever you are right now, enjoy it! Enjoy the people you are with. All relationships change. The only thing we can do is love, for it is the only thing that keeps relationships everlasting. Love the one you're with! ~Once a Boy |
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