Re: hope vs. acceptance
Submitted by Struggler on January 04 2001 17:49:25
In reply to hope vs. acceptance submitted by Quidditch on January 04 2001 14:10:22
| To offer you and others hope, I am a married former BL man with, now, a teen daughter. My wife of 19 years learned of my past about six years ago. Rather than become upset, learning what "the wall in our relationship" was became an answer to prayer for her and offered her hope. Divorce proceedings were dropped and we are now the happiest we've ever been. Do I still struggle with temptation? Sure! Do I yield to the temptation? No. Let's compare it to the so-called *straight man*. Does your average straight man ever face opposite sex temptation? Sure he does! Does he yield to the temptation? Many do and many do not. My encouragement to you, friend, is to not give up hope for a, perhaps, relationship in marriage ... just because you struggle with temptation (along with every other man on this earth). Keep your focus on Christ and pray about whether God's plan includes a spouse. If so and if you begin a dating relationship, I encourage you to be honest with your future spouse about your past and about your honest desire to become married. Put an end to lies. Find a pastor or very strong Christian friend to become accountable. Do that, my friend, and you CAN change. Now ... that's hope! -- Struggler |
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