here's what i've found
Submitted by Splash! on January 04 2001 23:23:37
In reply to here's what i've found submitted by Quidditch on January 04 2001 21:10:41
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I don't know if this helps or not, but I know a man who has stopped being a boylover by resisting any temptation or feeling that led in that direction, and he minimized his contact with boys. He has since gone on to have a healthy relationship with a woman. He apparently did this by quenching his desire for boys and feeding his desire for women. As a heterosexual boylover, I know that when I spend less time around boys and thinking about boys, my desire for women increases. Maybe a similar approach would work for non-heterosexual boylovers who desire to have a desire for a wife and kids? Maybe it's worth a try? I also understand the question, "Is it fair to her?" I don't think you should just outright tell her, "I'm a boylover," but I think it's right that you give her some kind of warning that the relationship may not be as "normal" as other heterosexual relationships. A woman will most likely think you don't love her if you don't show her the affection that she expects. To be fair, she needs to know that you may not be as passionate with her as she expects you to be (at least not in the beginning). You should be able to explain this to her some way, and leave the line of communication open so that the both of you can talk about your progress. Just some thoughts. Maybe others in this forum have more experience in this area and will share their knowledge. ~Splash* |
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