depends on how well people know you
Submitted by Splash! on January 11 2001 00:23:32
In reply to So what happens when... submitted by Huck Finn on January 10 2001 14:58:03
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I've slept with my 11 year old nephew when we were out camping -- no problem. I've slept with my girlfriend's 8 year old son when we were out camping -- no problem. But the tough times came when my girlfriend's 11 year old son spent the night with me at my apartment. I've gone into great detail about him in my August postings to this board. He was very attractive in many ways. And when he brought his sleeping bag with him and told me, "I guess I won't be needing this," I was thrilled. He wanted to be close with me. I didn't think of doing anything sexual with him, and I didn't. But it felt great having him there beside me -- the closeness. We slept together a few different times when he'd come over to spend the night, and his mother knew about it. I think she was accepting of it because she knew me very well. I had known the family for several years. She knew me as a trusted friend, a Christian, and as someone she was romantically involved with. However, a little more than a year later, we all moved into a big house together. Her son, now 12 years old, was scared one night and asked me to stay in his room until he fell asleep. So I prayed with him and then laid down on his bed for awhile. (It was a big bed, by the way). I fell asleep and woke up about an hour later, but I was so tired, I just decided to stay there. In the morning, his mother came into the room and said, "What do we have here?" She smiled. Then she said, "You know, if his father had found the two of you like that, he would have freaked!" In other words, she had no problem with it because she knew me and trusted me. She knew I had a very strong relationship with her son and that I wouldn't harm him. But his dad didn't know me as well and would've had a problem with it -- plus, his father was overly protective of his children and often thought the worst of people. So... I think it just comes down to how well people know you whether they perceive it as bad or not. Also, how well do you know yourself? Personally, I wouldn't suggest that most "boylovers" spend the night sleeping with a boy. Some of us might not be able to handle the temptation to touch the boy, or worse. But that's a whole other subject. ~Splash* |
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