Re: female loves a boylover
Submitted by Once a Boy on January 14 2001 00:12:25
In reply to female loves a boylover submitted by ILMPR on January 13 2001 20:35:39
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You grouped boylovers. Only you know the man you are speaking about. The only way to see if you two can have something or not have something is the risk in communicating with him. I believe people who love boys can also love adults. Do you want the 10 year friendship or do you want more? I think if you want more, then you must find out more about him. Then, if he is NOT interested in you, you'll know too, and as you put it, "walk your own way." If he is interested, and hears your love for him and wants this, then you could have the relationship you desire. Indeed, its been 10 years, so if "it" hasn't happened, it might be that he is content with just a friendship. If you just want the friendship, then say nothing and enjoy your times together while working on love with someone else. It depends on what you want. It sounds like you want more than a friendship. The only way you'll know is to talk about his feelings and your feelings. It is a risk, but either way you'll be free. You'll be free to love him or free to leave him and pursue someone else. That's my opinion. ~Once a Boy P. S. By the way, don't place all boylovers in a box. Find out from him if he is interested in a relationship with you. As far as whether or not you should confront him with his feelings towards boys, I think having a friend express their "okayness" regarding his boylover desires is a good thing for him to hear. However, I think this is not the time to bring it up. You must first figure out what he wants. Then, you must figure out if you can be just a friend with him (if this is what is revealed). Then, over time, as a lover or as a true friend, you might be able to open up this aspect of him being a boy lover. But really, I believe the relationship needs to be "settled." Then, the boy lover issue can be raised in the months ahead if you still desire to be a true friend. |
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