And some of us might not.... Some of the people whom I've met on this board are attracted to women sexually. For myself, I have no attraction in that direction. It is therefore entirely a matter of where he is at; there is no general rule on that issue. Even having passed that point, you need to consider whether you would be happy sharing the care of a boy born to the two of you with him. Would you REALLY trust him, or would there be a nagging fear undermining the relationship? Our married visitors can tell us whether their wives not knowing has been a major issue - it would appear to be survivable, but then the wives DIDN'T know. I guess I'm sounding fairly pessimistic - but then that tends to be my take on life! I hope to hear how things turn out. |