Can't control it on your own....
Submitted by Once a Boy on January 21 2001 16:41:14
In reply to i agree with everything you said submitted by Splash! on January 20 2001 20:42:33
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You wrote: "The more I learn about this part of myself, the better grasp I have on how to control it and use it for good, while overcoming the sinful part of it." This statement makes me think you do not control it; it controls you. Of course, only you know. In a post, later in the thread, you elegantly say, I couldn't control "it" on my own. You spoke of giving up trying to control...yes! Indeed, WE try to control many things (sins), but until we are enlightened and given the tools to deal with our problems (sins), we are helpless. A smoker cannot change without a change in his heart. A gambler cannot get over his obsesion without a change in his heart. An alcoholic will not change unless there is a change in his heart. And on and on.... Thus, a person must come to the conclusion that a particular action (sin) is undesirable. Until one hits rock bottom and cries out (to God) and empties one's soul, real change does not occur. It is in this total release of control and plea for help when something (God?) comes in and picks up the battle. In short, healing (and change) can take place. Yet, there are an infinite number of things we all could work on. Thus, in all honesty, one's obsession or adiction with boys is only one of many ways, we can fall into the valley of darkness. Many alcholics, for example, destroy their relationships with their families or end up dying in a car accident. Until one sees the reason to change and "hits rock bottom," change will not occur. Each one of us must search our hearts to see if our "love" for boys is healthy or not. Fortunately, that's not my job! Only God can give people clear warnings about the dangers of living the life they lead. If destroyed relationships and severe unhappiness exists because of one's actions, then it is up to them to make the conclusion that something is wrong. If one searches his heart, He will know whether or not He is in the valley of darkness. Who am I to judge another, when only God can clearly see the heart of the person in question? I've kind of gone off course. My point was just that each person must be enlightened about what is best for their lives. You talk about having control and it got me thinking: God is the one who must control the things we are controlled by. We cannot control obsessions or addictions! If we are NOT controlled (or obssesed) about an issue, then we are NOT to work on this at this time in our lives. However, if one feels out of control with boys, or drinking, or gamling, or whatever, then that person is on the verge of enlightment. It is not until we go into the valley of darkness, do we see a great light. Of course, with many aspects of life, we will remain in darkness until our death. There is way too much to learn! ~Once a Boy |
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