I have to say I agree with the vast majority of what you have said. You are right when you say "temptation is not sin" even Jesus was tempted! The sin comes into the picture when we give into the temptation, not before. You are also right when you say, "simply loving a boy or finding a boy attractive is not sin" Even Jesus loved boys (& girls), I think most of us love kids. Again, sin comes into the picture when that love is manifested sexually. As you say, "it is sinful to engage in sex with another person unless it is within the guidelines provided in the Bible". That is so true indeed. |
As far as pedophillia being removed totally, Im probably the one who said that, I still believe that pedophiliac or homosexual desires can be healed through Christ. Thats not to say, it will happen over night or after one or two simple prayers, it often takes ages and requires a lot of commitment, faith and self-control. Its important to say that, in some cases some will be be freed from their desires, why? Sometimes God chooses not to heal us, sometimes he chooses not to remove a persona sexual cravings. His ways are not our ways, nor are his thoughts our thoughts. Sometimes he uses our expereiences and struggles to teach us things, to enable us to grow or to teach us to rely and trust in him, rather than ourselves.
By no means am I suggesting that, those who have spent years trying to change & haven't, lack faith or haven't tried hard enough, Im not that arrogant or insensitive. It took me years before God enabled me to change and be free of homosexual desires. But what I do know is that change is possible, it is possible for gays thus, surely it is possible for boylovers. Again, the process of change is a long hard road, and many who attempt to follow that road, stop half way because it can be so damn hard! Things often get a hell of a lot worse before they get better. But I believe that for the most part, change (healing) is possible. But again, the decision to heal someone of their homosexuality or pedophillia or whatever, rest's with God & only God. We can wish it as much as we want, we can pray as much as we want, if God chooses not to set someone free, for whatever reason, there is nothing we can do about it! But rest assured, if he chooses not to free someone of their struggle, he will use that struggle for the best, he will at some point use that person's struggle constructively.
Another worthwhile point (well, I think so anyway LOL!)is that, just because someone is attracted to boys, or just because someone feels in some way "drawn" to boys or even appears to have a deep longing to love them, nuture them, comfort them and so on. DOESN'T NECESSARILY MEAN HE/SHE IS A PEDOPHILE. Just as someone who has the ocassional, fleeting homosexual thought, fantasy or desire, is NOT necessarily gay. I blame the society for the way that we have labelled, "all" people who love boys or feel attracted to them in some way, as pedophiles. Personally, I don't necessarily consider someone to be a pedophile simply, because he loves boys, or is in some way attracted to them. There is nothing sinful about love and I don't believe that there is anything sinful about being attracted to someone else, adult or child. God has given us the ability to appreciate beauty, so its only natural that we will find some people (boys included) attractive. Thats not the problem, what we do with that attraction is.
"I say to you, whoever looks at a woman (man/boy or girl) to lust after her (him) has committed adultery with her already in his heart"