There are many married BLs there - fathers with wives and children. A few of the wives have even posted from time to time. I think if she were able to interact with other marries men who lead responsible lives and have good marriages, she may lose some of her fear. Of course what she's afraid of is that you will become sexually involved with your children. All her conditioning has led her to believe that that is an almost inevitable outcome. To counter that, she needs to her voices that reinforce what you're telling her - that you are not some kind of monster, that you don't lack control of yourself and that you are not going to harm your children. Jim |