A third alternative
Submitted by Forgiven on February 17 2001 12:26:09
In reply to The Safe Route submitted by Ford Prefect on February 17 2001 10:14:39
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is what has happened to me; I have chosen to move away from spending time with boys who are 12-14 and instead spend it with college student age guys. It's a lot safer - you are probably 'legal' if the worst were to happen, they know where they are at in their sexuality, and yet still need support and encouragement; my straight YF, who is now 20, told me that he is dropping out of college this year having crashed the course because of depression before he told his mother. It's not an easy route - it happened to me as a result of circumstances and particularly one college student coming into my life - but it is a strategy that seems to have worked for me over the past years. In practice I now have no contact with boys under 16, and am quite content in this; I look at the youngsters in church and wonder what on earth I saw in them in the past. I don't know how I would react if circumstances changed the other way, but I can see little virtue in worrying about it; at the moment I have found a good way forward. |
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