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Submitted by Forgiven on February 18 2001 04:39:07
In reply to I am so confused right now. Please help! submitted by Lemonhead on February 17 2001 21:39:44
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You've come to the right place, and I hope that the webmasters will be able to reassure us that we have a lying troll (i.e. self righteous troublemaker, who in fact can't have done what he says he's done) amongst us. I think it is fair to say that you are at the top of a slippery slope that could lead to big trouble. Most of us are further down..... and don't recommend the scenery down here! In the short term you need to work out how to make your present relationship with the 10 year olds safer. Don't deceive yourself - it could go wrong, but it can be a major source of good things for them if it does stay good. You are in a very vulnerable position with them, especially as their very trust in you may lead them to ask questions and do things with you that are them exploring their sexuality totally innocently, but which you COULD pervert. But in years ahead, if you get the relationship right, you may be the person who kept them safe and sane during the teenage years, which are a horrible experience for everybody. It's a risk - only God know whether continuing the relationship is the right thing to do; you need to find out from Him what is appropriate. But there of course we have the problem, which our unfriendly troll has highlighted. A really helpful way of discerning God's will is to discuss the issue with other Christians; just doing so openly often reveals the real motives in our hearts. But of course to do so in your circumstance is a very high risk strategy, which you should certainly not rush into - even pastors these days have a duty to report the possibility of child abuse if it comes to their attention in a pastoral context. I suspect the best way forward is to get a Hushmail account set up and start finding out whether any of us live anywhere near you. I hope some of this makes sense, and encourages you to find God's way forward in all this. That surely is the key - if we are doing what God wants, then we are in the right, whatever anyone else says. I think that is enough for now; the deeper issues need thinking about further, but for now you just need to know that you've found others struggling as you are. You are very welcome here; I hope that in coming months you find it to be as outstandingly helpful as I have in. |
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