Re: Becoming closer...
Submitted by Tested on March 6 2001 18:11:46
In reply to Becoming closer... submitted by Huck Finn on March 6 2001 16:54:49
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Hi Huck, There is often a confusion of feelings when we think about or even dream about being with a boy in a way that others might say is wrong. I don't those feelings are very unusual for us. Nevertheless these are strong feelings that reach deep into feelings of love and caring and even tap into some sexual stirrings. Dreams that have some sexual tone to them are not unusual. I feel dreams do no harm. They are always with us and they sometimes take us to many places and situations we would not go consciously. Your YF is precious and valuable to you. Just take it all in small steps. Don't push. Allow him to open up to you in his own way as you grow closer spiritually, emotionally and physically. He needs to be able to trust his feelings about you just as much as you do with him. You both will need to learn where the limits and boundaries lie while your relationship builds. YFs, I think from my own experiences, want more than anything a friend they can trust, that they feel safe with, that makes them feel respected and honored. A warm hand oh his shoulder, a hug, and other appropriate physical contact can add to the relationship if it is given when wanted and needed. So there's a few of my thoughts. I hope the best for you and your YF. God bless you both. |
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