You've found a good place here
Submitted by Forgiven on July 15 2001 12:49:05
In reply to Help!!! submitted by Wildfire on July 15 2001 01:39:32
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certainly for me this board has been a helpful place as I've struggled to deal with much the same issues as you. And it is a place where I have found hope - something which you seem to be short of; but don't be deceived, Hell is even more lacking in hope. And I've found some good friends - most of whom I've only 'met' electronically, but a few also in real life; to be able to talk about our shared experience of this struggle is a great encouragement. The wider of issue of what to do with our sexual feelings is not an easy one - but part of the answer for me, at least to the extent of meaning that I am largely coping with life - is to have a lot of constructive relationships with a lot of different people. There is the possibility of doing something constructive with our feelings as well - because of our attraction to boys, we can sometimes minister, appropriately, to them in a way that others can't; there's one man who is now married and expecting his first child who has been kind enough to describe me as his 'mentor' as a result of my friendship for him as a youngster; it's a friendship that wouldn't have happened if I hadn't been a BL, and nothing untoward ever happened. And at the present time I have a number of young men in my life for whom I think I play a significant role. So welcome aboard; I look forward to hearing more - and emails are also a good way to get to know individuals; most of us use web based email to preserve our anonymity (we're not paranoid - they ARE out to get us) - note that Hotmail is not especially secure in that respect, but Hushmail is more so. |
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