to give you an idea...

welcome "pretty boy" It might be better if we ask you why you find us Christian boylovers puzzling; then we can better respond to your question. But to give you an idea, here's part of a post I wrote awhile back. I think it's a good example of how most of us Christian boylovers feel, act, live, and interact with others (including the boys we're attracted to): I had a good Christian relationship with a boy to whom I was sexually attracted. (I've gone into great detail about this in previous posts). For awhile he referred to me as "the Bible man" or "Mr. Bible" and things like that. That is how he viewed me. And though we did a lot of fun things outside of church and talking about God, he always knew that Jesus was at the core of our relationship with each other. My purpose was to help him grow as a Christian young man, and his purpose was to learn from my influence, develop a relationship with the Lord, and grow as a Christian. There were many opportunities for me to change my relationship with the boy into a physical/sexual one. He acted out sexually a few times -- I could've taken advantage of those times. And he lived with me -- I was his mother's boyfriend (which was discussed in yet another post). There were many times we were alone. But you know what I kept thinking about? Whenever I'd get "those feelings" I'd think about how it would affect my relationship with the boy, my relationship with God, and his relationship with God. Also, how would he have viewed Christians and his own Christianity, knowing that I was a Christian and had fallen to fleshly desires at the expense of a young naive innocent potentially powerful Christian boy? And would he then think it okay for Christians to set aside their spirituality at moments of sexual temptation? Besides, isn't it also a sin to entice others to lust, especially a boy who is young in the faith? Jesus said, "And whoso shall receive one such little child in my name receiveth me. But whoso shall offend one of these little ones which believe in me, it were better for him that a millstone were hanged about his neck, and that he were drowned in the depth of the sea. Woe unto the world because of offences! for it must needs be that offences come; but woe to that man by whom the offence cometh!" (Matthew 18:5-7). This is a very tough verse, if not the toughest, for boylovers to swallow. This verse is so important that it is repeated three times in the New Testament -- Matthew 18, Mark 9, and Luke 7. It would do many well to read the whole thing, and the verses that follow, including: "Take heed that ye despise not one of these little ones; for I say unto you, That in heaven their angels do always behold the face of my Father which is in heaven" (Matthew 18:10). Do you see what this verse is saying? Jesus is warning us. He says that children have angels that are at the same time watching over them and looking at the face of God! Do you know what that means?! The angels, while in the presence of God, are also watching you interact with the children over whom they watch!! It's an awesome thing! But it is also "a fearful thing to fall into the hands of the living God" (Hebrews 10:31). Another Christian boylover recently wrote, "You are feeding your own selfish desires by abusing another person -- using them to fulfill your own selfish needs... Don't ever buy into that unconditional love crap. It's selfish, selfish, selfish. I don't show any care for that boy at all by abusing him with my thoughts... Truly caring about the boy requires me to keep HIS interests in mind. What is best for HIS growth in maturity and holiness and relationship with the Lord? I do not need to encourage him to spend a lot of time with me -- that is too selfish. Do parents strive to get alone with their kids so that they can enjoy each others' company one-on-one? Not the way that I want to do with boys -- I have to make sure of what is truly in their interest and what is in mine." It is important that we, as Christians, fellowship with each other, exhort one another, and be there for another -- much more importantly since we share a common struggle. We need to find others who are mature in the faith, confess our sins to them, ask for prayer, and be accountable. One thing that always helps me, and I always suggest it to people who are struggling with sin (because they most likely haven't done it in awhile), is to sit down and read the Bible. Read anything -- a Bible story, Jesus' words, Paul's letters, prophecy, Psalms, Proverbs, anything. It's worked for me many times. It draws us closer to the Lord and opens up a line of communication between us and the Lord. Makes us stop and think too. Most people don't even take the time to think. It helps.