Re: Courage or Cowardice in a Relationship?
Submitted by Nate on September 9 2001 00:07:27
In reply to Courage or Cowardice in a Relationship? submitted by Altima on September 6 2001 18:36:56
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whenever I have been faced with what could be a meaningful and long lasting friendship/relationship, I run. I try to distance myself. I remember doing the same thing in my school years. Used to frustrate myself - everytime I found someone I really liked and wanted to be good friends with, I would either freeze up and not relate to them, or I would get wrapped up in some emotional fantasy and then get my feelings hurt when the other person didn't realise how much I liked them (of course I never TOLD them, duh!) It took me a long time to realize that I was running away from relationships. You do well to realise this trend early. For me, somehow feeling loved touched a very empty and painful place in me, and it was fear that welled up and prevented me from getting closer. I know my answer seems to concern a situation different from what 90% of you face.... I think 90% of us have shared some of the situations you discuss. I really appreciate your perspective on things. It helps me to look back upon my own school daze and try to remember what it was like and what I was thinking then. Or perhaps it's just my first experiance in an all boys school.... I am happy to hear that things are going well. And I am especially happy that people seem to be taking an interest in you as a person. Relax...just be a friend to others. |
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