A lesson learnt...
Submitted by Jules on October 9 2001 16:02:50
In reply to Being 'out' to parents and/or the boy submitted by Mark on October 8 2001 17:18:38
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...the hard way. As is so often the case. I once told a 14 y/o boy "I'm really fond of you" but neither of us discussed it further. When I continued being affectionate with him, in the end he couldn't work it all out and told his parents. The father's response (whom I knew well), as well as being shocked and angry, was "Why didn't you tell me?" Looking back, I think that would have been better. The boy wasn't really capable of understanding and dealing with what I told him or with my attention. I suppose he couldn't quite make out whether it was innocent or not, and whether it was supposed to be a secret or not. To be honest I didn't really know either. But telling his parents would have helped. We could have agreed a way of preventing it being a problem for the boy. With Christian love, Jules |
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