A belated suggestion
Submitted by Heather on October 18 2001 16:43:52
In reply to Thanks to all who responded submitted by kiowas on October 16 2001 02:01:25
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This might sound like an odd suggestion . . . but I think that your mom needs to get in touch with the ex-gay community. You're really dealing with two issues here: your mom's beliefs about homosexual/pedophilic activity, and her hatred of same-gender-attracted people. She needs to separate the two issues. You may or may not be able to convince her to hold the same views you do about gay sex or BL sex (you don't mention what your views are on this, so possibly you're already in agreement with her on this topic), but that shouldn't have any effect on whether she loves *you*. Parts of the ex-gay community have done a really good job at helping conservative Christian parents to separate their beliefs about homosexuality from the misguided belief that they must hate their same-gender-attracted children. The ex-gay community has a wide range of beliefs, just as the gay community does, but if you can hook your mom up with a group that takes a compassionate approach, I think she'll be able to see why she needs to battle her belief that you being gay is the worst thing that can happen to her. Incidentally, there are ex-gays who are also minor-attracted, in case you come out to her about that. I've linked below some articles from Exodus (the ex-gay umbrella group) that she might find helpful if you decide to come out to her. All the best luck. Heather My Daugher - A Lesbian? http://www.exodusnorthamerica.org/testimonies/familyfriends/a0000504.html Excerpt: "I just want to be with Susan as a mother, not as an adversary. I feel it's vital to grasp the moment--I may not have another chance to love her. I've seen too many parents lose that chance forever by cutting off all contact with their gay son or daughter." When Someone You Love is Gay http://www.exodusnorthamerica.org/infocenter/libraryarticles/a0000679.html Excerpt: "If you are having a difficult time dealing with any person because of his or her homosexuality, then you need to take a look at your attitude-and get it right. Being squeamish about homosexuality is one thing. But having a reaction of revulsion, hostility, or violence toward the gay person is sin." Advice for Parents of Gay Children http://www.exodusnorthamerica.org/infocenter/libraryarticles/a0000378.html "When your child reveals a piece of his own life to you, this is an expression of deep trust. Making this disclosure to you is probably one of the major decisions of his life. Your reaction will be long remembered." How a Parent Should Respond to a Gay Child is Not Always Apparent http://www.exodusnorthamerica.org/infocenter/libraryarticles/a0000460.html "One set of parents interrogated their confused son by shouting furiously, "how could you do this to us?" as if he had planned for years how to blind side his parents with the news of his homosexuality." |
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