Re: Brother, I can Relate...!
Submitted by Splash! on October 26 2001 21:50:46
In reply to Re: Brother, I can Relate...! submitted by Chris on October 24 2001 18:14:24
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Hi Chris. Thank you for the things you said. It is encouraging. I remember you being the first person to ever make a reply to me on this board. And then Bach & Andy. Those first few replies made a big difference in making me realize that I can go on, even with an inner battle, and even while the one I loved so much has become so distant. Your words offer some hope. Your L. and my "Kid" do sound very much alike. It makes me happy to hear that someone else has been blessed with a wonderful spiritual relationship with a boy. You've known L. from 9 to 19, and I've known The Kid from 7 to 17 (almost). Hopefully my Kid will "come around" in a couple years. I remember one time, a couple years ago, after I moved out, he called me to take him to a friend's house. Of course, I didn't say no. I jumped on any opportunity to see him, for whatever reason. So I drove up to his house and picked him up. It was about a half hour to his friend's house, but I was quiet for most of the trip. The Kid looked at me and said, "Well, aren't you going to say anything to me?" I said, "Well, I have all kinds of things to say to you, but since it's been so long since I've seen you, I don't know where to start. And since we only have about 20 minutes to talk, I'm not sure what I should talk to you about." I was afraid to lecture him about anything because then he probably wouldn't call me for a ride anymore, and I was afraid to talk to him about anything spiritual because then he might think I was putting a guilt-trip on him. We settled on small talk. After that day, it was a whole two months before I heard from him again. We immediately became good friends again, but after a couple more months, his mother and I broke up again and she used his love for me as a weapon against me by telling the both of us that we couldn't talk with each other. The Kid wrote me a letter several months later -- he told me how much I meant to him and that his mother didn't want him talking to me, but he hoped we'd see each other again. His mother later apologized and thanked me for things I had done for her family, but she has yet to encourage a friendship between me and her son. She says that if I can't be her friend, then I can't be his friend either. But I don't trust her anymore. Besides, I have a new potential girlfriend, and she has a new boyfriend. So, in two years, I've had very little contact with The Kid. I hear about him through friends of friends, and I am saddened by what I hear. I warned him about becoming a teenager, and he kept telling me, "No, I would never do that!!" But, here he is doing things like that. I'm sad for him and sad for all the time I put into him. I have just a little bit of hope that he'll come back around someday. We still go to some of the same places, but I avoid those places when I know he's there. I hate it when he ignores me; though, he really does seem to like it when *I* go out of my way to talk to him. It's such a weird relationship right now. I'm not sure where I stand with him; plus, I don't think he's ready for me right now. He's still doing the teenage thing. He has to get "through" it, as you say. I pray and pray that he does. I guess I shouldn't be afraid of seeing him. Maybe I'll go back to those same places again. If he ignores me, so be it. At least I'm there and he knows I'd love him to come talk to me anytime. If God is a part of this relationship, as He has been in the past, then it will work out for the best. Thank you for your words of encouragement and understanding! In Jesus' Love, Splash |
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