Re: So let me get this straight.
Submitted by Nate on October 27 2001 00:08:31
In reply to So let me get this straight. submitted by kiowas on October 26 2001 18:33:51
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Is that a leading question? It is true that what we are talking about is not proper clinical accountability; however, I do find that it is far more than just having someone to talk to. Just having someone to talk to would not be accountability unless I also determine to be open and honest with people that I trust and respect. And I also must trust them to tell me the truth. Its not that anybody is watching me, rather its more like some friends are standing with me. Here is a real life practical example: When WT comes over here and asks me for a backrub, I know that he is in a mood where he would let me go "all the way". I know because he has told me so. How do I deal with that and act in a way that is best for him? It helps that I can think back on things that Splash! has said about showing the boy a love that is better than sex. I can remember encouragement from Forgiven and others at times when I was feeling overwhelmed, and it seems like I am not in this alone anymore. The effect is that I feel like some other people care about how I act in this situation, and I don't want to disappoint them. What I have going here is not accountability in the strict sense of someone watching over me, rather I have decided to hold myself accountable to the people on this board - and that leads me back to my first post where I try to explain what I mean by accountability. I feel like we have exhausted this topic, kiowas. If you still do not understand, perhaps it is because you don't really want to, or you are not ready to. Peace, Nate |
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