hi kiowas, I can see how this looks strange when you compare it with probation or parole after incarceration. But that's not the model we're looking for. Most Christians naturally keep an eye on one another's relationships. If a married man is spending too much time alone at a single woman's home, somebody will say something, etc. BLs are struggling with different questions, and unless someone understands your struggle, it will be difficult for them to keep you accountable in this way - of leading a Christian life. Rather than falling into temptation, and being caught up in a downward spiral. Think of AA, or other self-help groups... AA isn't about spying on other people, its about offering a person to be accountable to, to ask advice and get counsel when you're feeling unsure about your decisions. It's not someone to report you to the police, and to watch your every move. Christianity works best on the principal that each Christian wants to follow Jesus Christ and walk in His ways. If we spent all our time searching for our brothers' sins, where would we be? Peace of Christ, Bach |