Your answer lies in the reason why he'd freak.
Submitted by 194 on October 31 2001 14:18:39
In reply to Partner would Freak submitted by GayBoylover on October 26 2001 01:35:41
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If, as you say, he thinks you flirt with younger men, but doesn't mind this, but he'd freak if he knew you've got desires for boys, you have to ask yourself what he thinks the nature of Desire is; i.e. Does he feel it's an expression of something vile, or an expression of something good, or something that can be either? Presumabley he wouldn't mind you wanting other types of relationships with boys, like an educator or a football coach, so the nature of desire clearly is the problem here. And what, specifically, about desire makes you feel sure he'd freak? ----"What do I do?" What you do, then, is gingerly, and very, very exhaustively probe what he really thinks of desire, focussing particularly what he feels it's an *expression* of. You could do this over a period of time, but avoid making it sound as if it's an interrogation. You might (or might not) be shocked and horrified at what you'd find, and in the process you will discover what he feels his desires for you really represent. This, of course, may have reprecussions for your relationship with him. You should also ask yourself the same questions, about what the nature of desire is. After all, this is the critical question here. Heather asked below if you valued your relationship with your boyfriend; you may need to consider also does he value his relationship with you. Regards 194............ |
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