don't lose that thought
Submitted by Splash! on November 17 2001 00:28:30
In reply to an addendum to my post submitted by Ender3306 on November 16 2001 22:04:15
| I think it's good to have guilt to keep us in check about certain things, but you really have to know why and where you're getting this guilt to understand it better and if it should be making you feel this way. I really don't see anything wrong with occasionally kissing a 10 yr old boy. I might fear that he might like it too much and won't grow out of it. That's a personal fear for me tho, not wanting a boy to struggle with the same pedophilic/homosexual desires I've tried battling all my life. (If a boy turns out to be homosexual, let it be on his own and not because of anything I've encouraged). I'd also be cautious about who's doing the kissing, when and why, and who's starting it. Just think about your motivations. I once knew an 8-year old boy, my main YF's little brother, who used to jump in my lap and kiss me all over, constantly hanging onto me and hugging me whenever he got the chance. At certain times, it was okay, but I also had to let me him know sometimes that enough was enough (even if I did like it). We have to remember the responsibility we have as adults and authority figures in shaping a young boy's life. Also, you may want to consider the parents. How would they feel about this? Is it okay with them? How would you do it differently if they were watching? What will you say or do when they suggest that their son is being overly affectionate with you? Or is he? Maybe you're being overly paranoid because of fears you might have about being "found out"? Feel free to tell us a little more, and don't worry about being too shocking or liberal or anything. The people here are very understanding, and I look forward to what they have to say to you also. Hopefully something I've said will be helpful. If your YF is like most normal 10 year old boys, he won't be doing the kissing thing much longer, so enjoy it while it lasts, but be careful to check yourself before you wreck yourself. Understand? Good to have you here. I look forward to hearing more from you. I like what you have to say -- I want things to remain innocent between us, because to do otherwise would be a disservice to this boy... Don't lose that thought. |
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