IMHO
Submitted by Dakota on November 21 2001 18:01:19
In reply to Sometimes I'm... submitted by Totally shocked on November 21 2001 11:04:05
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You left out a lot of important facts. Does the church and the mom know you are a BL? Did you know the mom was assuming that her son would be with other kids before you took him? Does your church have any kind of policy when it comes to taking kids on outings? And what sort of punishment are they applying? I have no doubt you bad the best of intentions when you took the boy bowling. But unfortunately, we live in an imperfect world filled with suspicion. Some of that suspicion is warranted, because not all men have your good intentions and devotion to Christ. So if the mother doesn't know you well, I can understand her being upset, even if she doesn't know you are a BL. If she does know you're a BL, I can even understand her going "spaz." It would be along the same lines as a mom finding out her little girl went out with a man mom didn't know well when she thought it would be a group thing. But even if you take away the sexual abuse fear, mom still has a right to be concerned for her kid's safety and general well being. It sounds like mom thought she was putting her trust in the church and found out later she had been putting her trust in a man she didn't know well. I think it's great that you use the "what would Jesus do" test. In this instance, I think Jesus would have made darn sure mom knew exactly what was going on. In any case, it's over and done. All you can do now is try to learn something from it. However unjust you may think it is, you will have to be super careful in the future that there isn't even a hint of impropriety on your part. I hope they let you continue to work with kids. It sounds like you really care. Dakota |
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