Most definitely it is real love
Submitted by J on January 8 2002 05:57:53
In reply to Boylove. . . is it really LOVE? submitted by tigris on January 7 2002 21:59:33
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Dear tigris, Your post definitely makes sense and indeed our motives are often complex and tainted to some degree by selfishness. Even so, we cannot dismiss genuinely loving motives, no matter what is mixed up with them, for they are true. You stated: I spend time with him partly because he fills a need in my life for acceptance... I admit that there is an element of physical attraction to my love for him, and does that mean that it is not pure love? I believe we are interdependent creatures and were designed that way from the beginning (cf. Genesis 2:18, 21-23). We all need love, companionship and acceptance. There is nothing unloving about spending time with a boy because he fills a valid need in your life. The argument can be made (not by myself, mind you) that children are not mature enough to fill such 'adult' needs, but that's a whole other issue all together. As far as the physical attraction goes, I don't see anything unloving about that either. God gave us physical attraction to draw us to one another, to be able to intimately unite as one (cf. Genesis 2:24). The entire Song of Songs points to the fact there is nothing unloving about physical attraction. Again, the argument can be made (not by myself, mind you) that attraction to children is 'wrong', but that's a whole other issue as well. The things you've described are not indicators of a love that is not pure, they are important elements of a pure love. Don't know if this response is making any sense, but that's my take on the situation. Continue to be a loving, Godly example in the lives of boys and never doubt that you truly love them. Love in the Lord, J |
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