Re: The clothes they wear
Submitted by tigris on January 18 2002 17:01:58
In reply to The clothes they wear submitted by Ben on January 18 2002 05:58:09
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Should you dress differently when you're around him? Should you let him show you some "cool" clothes? Heck no! Kenny tries to dress cool. He wears baggy pants with the boxers sometimes too. I think it's important for them to realize that we are, in fact, adults. There's something wrong with letting a kid define whether or not you're cool because of the way you dress. They know when you're trying to be cool just to impress them. They see right through it. In the long run, you may turn them off because of it. Many kids don't want an adult friend who tries to be a kid. They want an adult friend who really is an adult. They may not act like it, but they don't really want another peer. They want an adult to look up to. I try to tell Kenny and show him that you don't have to try to be cool to make friends. Just be yourself. Kenny will try to act a certain way when he's with his friends to try to impress them. And most kids do that, really. I just think that he needs to see that his "coolness" AND his normal self are both equally liked by you. I wouldn't give in to his requests for you to be cool. Let him like being with you. Not your clothes. Show him that you don't have to dress a certain way to be cool. Be yourself. That's why he liked you in the first place, right? If you ask me, it sounds like peer pressure. He's not your peer. Maybe I'm reading too much into your comments. If I am, I'm sorry. But I'm just giving my opinion, my friend, since you asked. It's just that over the past month I have really been dealing with the issues of my personal boundaries with Kenny, and this is one area that it sounds like could fall under the category of boundaries. tigris |
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