hopesalive - Somestimes I need to remind myself of what life was like before I encountered the BL community. It has been about 5 or 6 years now since I first stumbled upon boychat and eventually met up with another BL. It seems like a lifetime ago that I dealt with the self-hate that comes from feeling like a monster, unlike anyone in the world. It is so distant to me now, I can't even imagine those feelings anymore. I say this to you, not to boast of how proud I am of myself. Instead, I say it so that you will realize that you too have a value and a purpose. By being a part of this community, you will find that you are one of many, and that your deep feelings that you never wanted to be a bad person are justified. That's right. You DIDN'T and you are NOT. There is a future and you will feel good again. You are not alone. Love, Ben |