Just the other night I had to forgive a man who wronged me terribly - who came damned close to ruining parts of my life. I told him to his face that I was very thankful for the act of reconciliation he was making. I made no conditions - just thanked him. Before I said it, I had no thought that those words could make any true difference. Yet I DO feel liberated now. I don't have to be angry and I don't have to worry about how I feel about this man. In fact, I can put the episode behind me and move on with my life. I don't think I could have done that if I had not actually expressed out loud to him that degree of forgiveness. |