Re: For Ben (and anyone else)
Submitted by Ben on February 15 2002 18:45:27
In reply to For Ben (and anyone else) submitted by Jules on February 15 2002 12:41:37
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Hi Jules, Thank you so much for your post. I'll need to keep my reply breif because I'm off for the weekend. I do agree somewhat that BLs can often be emotionally stuck at the age for twelve. For me this is also the case, but the emotional growth that has not happened is much more internal than external. I always worked very hard to assure people that I was "normal" and as a result was very outgoing and made lots of friends. I have many adult friends and can hold my own in a variety of crowds. I did grow up in a fairly affluent 'society' family, and so had lots of practice at pretending. I do have some deeper friendships as well, both in church, in the BL community (RL meetings) and just old friends from life. What in me has NOT grown up, is my ability to emotionally function as a selfless and giving adult. I still see myself as a teenager, still want to have fun, still need to be 'filled' every day. Adult only environments are quite good for me, not because they force the interaction necessarily but because they reduce the distraction. Generally though, if there is a boy anywhere in site, I'll find him. I remember being in my early twenties and going to Club Med for adults. I figured that if I didn't 'find a girl' in this environment, I never would. Well, there was an 11 year old french boy who used to come over the Club Med from a nearby resort to use the pool. Needless to say, that was the only friend I sought out that week. I may email you when I get back. I do want to explore the immaturity in my character. It may need a different approach though. You are not alone. Love, Ben |
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