All of the BLs that I know and respect are still good friends with their boys well into adulthood. I've spoken to several about their experience and they find it profoundly positive (even the sex). That's why I reject the idea that it's ALWAYS wrong. There simply is no way to show the truth or fallacy in the statement that it's TOO dangerous. May or may not be true depending on every situation. A personal decision I guess. Very rare to meet a young boy (under 13) who can handle it, I admit. But I've met several (none of MY yfs mind you) :-) yup Wolfie |