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Submitted by Wolfcub on March 13 2002 16:37:49
In reply to Re: For Splash! submitted by Splash! on March 13 2002 13:19:37
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How does this "covenant" argument fit into an adult-minor relationship? Like I said in my earlier post, I believe the good that can come out of a nonsexual adult-minor relationship far outweighs any good that can come out of a sexual adult-minor relationship, no matter if BOTH want to be sexual with each other. I don't believe that a minor can know what he/she wants out a sexual relationship or know what to expect out of a sexual relationship since minors don't have the information or experience to make that type of "covenant" decision. How is a person expected to KNOW what they want from a "first" experience. Assuming it's at the age of 13, 16, 20, 30, 60. How, by this argument, can someone ever enter such a relationship without questioning what they want out of it, since they've never done it? Also, along the same lines. A very shallow person, who avoids introspection and philosophical thought would be much less prepared to define their "needs" than even a young (11 or 12) boy who has spent a good portion of his time introspectively questioning his existance. I know boys like this. I know men and women like the former example. I know that those men and women are usually very unhappy with their relationships because of the confusion and difficulty they bring up. I also know a few boys who are very happy with their relationship because they know what it stands for and where it is headed. Your argument is always about "assuming the average case" and I understand that from THAT position, it makes a great deal of sense. I prefer to judge things on how they ACTUALLY ARE and I guess sometimes I try to see past the average case. Just to clarify. The VAST majority of boys I know of that age are not capable of such introspective thought. Along those lines, neither are an alarming percentage of people my age (early 20s), which I find both distrubing and saddening. Just wanted to clear that up. Wolfie |
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