Re: When is boysex okay? (in response to Nate)
Submitted by Nate on March 15 2002 00:12:15
In reply to When is boysex okay? (in response to Nate) submitted by Splash! on March 12 2002 08:04:01
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Hi Splash, I had to take a few days to consider how to respond to this. It is obvious that you have thought a lot about your stance and how you should follow Scripture. I don't want to talk you out of that. On the other hand, I have been in a mood to question my church's traditionally held views, lately. Thats how this sort of thinking got started. I am feeling like they don't really have my best interests in mind, and I am wondering how many things are said as a way of controlling the masses rather than being a way to persue a right relationship with God. I am discerning that there is a difference between Jesus' teachings and the traditional church we have today. I think that there are more than a few who like to tie up heavy loads for others to carry, but won't lift a finger to help them. Anyway, the original point that I was trying to make is that - in my experience, and in my observations as a youth counselor - the emotional wounding that can come from sexual activity (not abuse) is almost always the result of what OTHER people think about what happened and due to the judgements that they make. I don't think that I have ever seen a kid messed up by the sex itself. Their confusion and self-doubt and self-loathing happens after somebody tells them what they should feel. (Once again, I am NOT talking about abusive situations. That is an entirely different matter in my mind.) That is why I was popping off about society causing the negative effects of sexual activity. Does it make more sense put that way? I hope you are well, Nate |
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