Re: Don't hold back
Submitted by Dakota on March 22 2002 14:54:36
In reply to Re: Don't hold back submitted by va3svd on March 22 2002 12:13:34
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OK, let me reciprocate by addressing a few things in your post. "I have absolutely no difficulty being exposed to the truth" Apparently not, but you still are having a bit of trouble accepting the truth. "Since when am I supposed to love your pedophilia?" Never said you were supposed to love my pedophlia, just me. I don't love my pedophilia, so there's no reason you should. In the same way, I don't love your bigotted, judgmental attitude, but I'm still supposed to love you. "since you are making this wickedness a habit of your life, I cannot accept you as a brother in Christ" Who said I was making anything a habit of my life? And what habit are you refering to? Molesting kids? I thought you would get this from my previous post, but since you didn't I'll spell it out for you. I DON'T MOLEST KIDS. The vast majority of pedophiles don't molest kids, just like the vast majority of "normal" men don't rape women even though they are sexually attracted to them. And if you reject me, or any other Christian, pedophile or not, you are rejecting Christ who lives in me. But that's between you and God. " You are altogether dead in trespasses and sins," Uhh, I think that is for God to judge, not you. "and not only that, you go and pick the most sickening sin to choose to base your life upon." Here we go again with you assuming you know what I base my life upon. "To this you add that you can't control your attraction. This is due probably mostly due to a habitual sinful lifestyle," OK, if my habitually sinful lifestyle (not that you really know what my lifestyle is, mind you) keeps me from controlling my attraction, what keeps you from controlling yours? Think about it. If you tried real hard for a long time, do you think that you could ever force yourself to be attracted to kids sexually? (not that you ever would, of course) And if you tried real hard for a long time, do you think you could ever force yourself not to be attracted to women sexually? No? So what sinful habits are keeping YOU from controlling your sexual attractions? The lie that you are buying into is that all pedophiles either have molested or will molest sometime in the future. This simply isn't true. Yes, there are some pedophiles that molest kids, just as there are some men who rape women. And while there are a few pedophiles that believe consensual sex with a minor is not wrong, I am not one of those. Even most of the pedos that don't believe it to be wrong still abstain for various reasons, legal and religious being among them. My personal view is this. I don't believe sexual contact with a minor is ALWAYS harmful to the child. But there is too much of a danger that even consensual contact will harm a child to take the risk. And since even if the child is one of the few that isn't harmed, I see no benefit for the child, so risking the child's welfare by having sexual contact is a selfish thing to do. The second reason I abstain is because I believe the Bible is clearly against it. The third reason is because of the legal ramifications. So, in short, I believe that although it is not always harmful, it is always wrong. So what would you do with thousands of pedophiles that never molest? Lock us away because of what a few do? If you locked up everyone with any kind of wrongful desires, there wouldn't be enough people left to guard them all. I'm sorry you don't like my desires. I don't like them either. I've often prayed that God remove them. But like Paul's "thorn in the flesh," He has chosen to leave them inside me. But I have learned, and am still learning, that His grace is indeed sufficient. My biggest problem with being a Christian pedophile is that I can only be open about it on anonymous boards like this. I can't let my church know, or even many close friends. Because when I SAY "pedophile," most people HEAR "molester." There are a great deal more pedophiles out there than you realize, but most you'll never know are pedophile because they don't molest and therefore don't make the news. I would guess that some of your friends or aquaintances right now are pedophiles. Probably even a few in your church. Is it really fair to subject them to your hate when they haven't done anything wrong? Even though you aren't subjecting them to it directly since you don't know they are pedophiles, I'm sure they know how you feel about what they are, and the hate still hurts. Believe me, I know. I challenge you to continue to try to understand. Bring it up in your church. Most people like yourself that post a few things here, usually run away rather than challenge their pre-conceived notions about pedophiles. It's a lot more comfortable to retreat back into the bosum of like minded (and like hating) individuals than search for the real truth. You certainly have a great deal more support to your way of thinking than I do of mine. But I'm taking all this time and effort to reply in the hope that you have more courage than most. Because if non-molesting pedophiles are ever going to be accepted, it's going to be one person at a time. Dakota |
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