The not-so bottomless pit of contentment
Submitted by Wolfcub on March 24 2002 22:26:50
In reply to Sex and Candy (for Bach, Wolfcub, Ben, and Nate) submitted by Splash! on March 16 2002 04:16:51
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You've brought up an interesting analogy I've used before but hadn't even considered mentioning today. I've heard the argument that boys don't need sex any more than they need candy. Actually, from Mike Ech*ls himself. :-) But... My point was... What happens when a boy hears about candy and how good it is. And as he gets older, he wants candy and he's curious what candy is like. But you've refused to give him ANY throughout his life. Eventually (unless he's a particularily sheltered boy), he will go steal some candy. Or he will find a friend who has some candy and they will go off and eat it together. If he has regular access to candy, he may even start doing it all the time. Ok, not a huge problem. He may gain some weight or something... Lets add the twist that certain types of candy can give you deadly diseases. Now, the question is... do you give him candy yourself or do you let him go find candy on his own? Alright- you see the point I'm making. I can see your mouth forming a "but..." Before you say it, let me point out that I'm generally referring to young teens here and not very young boys, who I rarely will approach in these debates. I don't believe that intimacy is some sort of bottomless pit. I just don't believe that is true. I know it's not true for me. In fact, there was a time in my life where i could only spend about 4 hours a week with someone I loved and, much to my suprise, just knowing he was there, thinking about me and wishing we were tothether, I felt satisfied for the remainder of the week between our times together. I guess a lot of this is based on personal perspective. Perhaps I have a different perspective than some. For one thing, I know I've have a somewhat unusual demeanor. I've been called "disturbingly optimistic" and "clinically upbeat" in the past, so that may have something to do with not requiring a great deal of help to feel content. But I just don't know. I think the each and every person on this earth is so different that trying to set "rules" about life is futile. Carpe diem. :-) Wolfie (who is not religious, in case you were curious) |
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