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Submitted by Dakota on March 25 2002 03:21:06
In reply to A shorter response. One donut should be planty. submitted by Dakota on March 25 2002 02:06:48
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I hadn't read your other replies before replying here. I see you are really hung up on the desire being sinful thing. I agree that some desires are sinful, such as covetting. But the chuches I attended thru the years didn't preach that sexual desire in and of itself was sinful unless we cultivated that desire and played around with it in our minds. (Like the tea and cakes analogy) Sexuality is a basic inborn instinct present in most living things, much like the desire for food, the desire for warmth when it's cold and coolness when it's hot, the desire to avoid physical pain, such as pulling your hand back if it gets burned, etc. Much has been preached on lust, but it usually is only preached as needing of repentance when one dwells on it rather than banishing it. In the Bible, homosexual acts have been called sinful, but I don't recall anywhere that it said just being a homosexual is sinful. In the places that talk about who will not enter the kingdom and it refers to homosexuals among others, people that know Greek and Hebrew tell me that it is refering to practicing homosexuals. I think it's very unkind to say to a homosexual (or pedophile) that just by being what they are makes them sinful. We are not talking about feelings such as anger, or envy, or covetting, or pridefulness. These feelings can be worked on and changed. To say that a person's sexual orientation is sin, in and of itself, is to tell him that he is doomed to live in constant sin the rest of his life. But if you regard all desires of a sexual nature to be sinful (except those in marriage, of course) it still doesn't change the need for boards like this. We don't feed each other's lusts here. We try to cope with something that most people find disgusting in a way that would please God. And we also are just friends talking about things any friend would talk about. So this is not just support, but social as well. Denying what we are is counterproductive. Before I found this board, I was totally isolated. I had one friend that I told I was a pedophile, and although he didn't disown me, he isn't comfortable talking about it. But I get the impression you don't think I SHOULD talk about it. Not talking about problems only make sthem worse. I think psychiatrists would agree. And although pedophilia is not my entire life, it is inescapable that it is, and will continue to be a big part of it, intertwined with everything else. Trying to deny it and pretend it's just some little quirk that can be ignored is what gets pedos in trouble. If I don't face it full on, that's when I'm in danger of letting my desires pull me into more lustful thoughts and maybe even wrongful acts. At least with me, it's not something I should turn my back on. If there were more boards like this, there would be fewer molested children. Dakota |
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