A short reply. (I promise)
Submitted by Dakota on March 26 2002 12:35:54
In reply to another really long one-- read it in shifts =0) submitted by sally on March 26 2002 03:48:31
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You know Sally, if you and I collaborated on a book, it would be longer than "War and Peace." :-) I'm truly sorry about the abortions. I assume that's what you were talking about. I hope you find comfort in the fact that God has forgiven you. And I hope you had and have someone to talk to about it if you need to. And I think you are right that everyone has things inside them they are not proud of. "You wish they would say he is a "pedophile offender" or something like that" EXACTLY!!! "But do all the Christians on the board believe that pedophlia is a sin even if the thoughts should not be considered a crime?" I don't know of any here that think just BEING a pedophile is a sin. "So I will say to my dying day that it is not OK for me to be selfish and by God's grace I will fight it to my dying day. Do you feel the same way about your orientation to pedophilia?" I don't think it's sin to have selfish thoughts, unless you dwell on them. I think it's sin to do selfish things. I feel the same way about pedophilia. But I also will fight my pedophile tendancies to my dying day. "It is not that I mean you can never help a child in need, but I would ask you to realize that the best thing for the boy is that God give him a daddy who will be his best friend. I can imagine that this would hurt you. I can imagine that you might want the object of your affection to love you more than any other man." You would imagine wrong. I want every boy, including any that become a YF to me, to love his parents more than anyone, including me. Because that would be what was best for him. The irony that most every pedophile knows is that any "special" friendship you have with any boy will never last. The boy always grows up. He can't help it. And he won't need or want the the kind of mentoring and attention I, and other pedophiles, enjoyed giving him when he was a boy. We may still remain friends, but it's inevitable that we will drift apart. After all, I'm not his father, and there isn't that blood bond to keep us close throughout life. I know this, and accept it. It sounds like you have a good church, and I don't want to try to talk you out of any of your beliefs. I just don't happen to believe quite the same way about everything. To be honest, I am not aware of any of my Christian friends that have as strict a view on what sin is as you do. But I am in full agreement that we all need the saving grace of Jesus to cleanse us of out sins. And if God wants to show me something more, I always try to be open to His leading. Thanks for taking the time to discuss this. Dakota |
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