You make some good points, Ben. Especially about the unlevel playing field between a boy and a man. A man can never really know the reasons why a boy may consent (or appear to consent) to sexual interaction. I think we all know what kind of toughts and justifications go through our minds (as men) when we start getting "excited" and tempted through our attraction to boys. And then after we're done doing whatever we do (alone and in private), we "wake up" and wonder at what just happened. It's almost as if we become more irrational the more horny we get, and then when we're no longer horny, things become more real. So, how can a man possibly be fully rational with a boy he finds attractive? How can he rightly make a decision that sex-play is good for the boy.|
The point was made by Wolfcub that if we hold back sex/candy from a child, he'll want it even more as he grows up. Not if we show that same child something much better -- then he'll desire even greater things. Love over sex. God over this world. Fitness over fatness. We all know which is better, and we strive for it. Teach the children. Show them the greater good. They will seek it. Show them love, inspire their potential, encourage their character, guide their dreams, tell them what they can achieve... Let these things be their desire.