Hi Forgiven, This is interesting. I didn't realize that Paul uses "Agape" in Ephesians! In any case, one would think that God designed sexual passion (Eros) in order to drive us towards the opposite sex. The only other thing that Eros accomplishes is to drive us towards immorality and impurity and clearly that wasn't his goal. So, it seems that our sexual love is also designed to drive us towards marriage. Yes, it would be wonderful if I could just tell her and her accept it. But knowing our church and the intolerance of sin (there is forgiveness....but also an expectation of repentence) our relationship would certainly sever at that point. You are not alone. Love, Ben |