with boys that do glorify God and are in his plan. The problem is to be absolutely honest with ourselves about when we are in a good place with him, and when we are drifting towards danger. There are no absolute rules; the same behaviour with one boy may be OK, and with another a sign we're pushing our luck. The tests I apply myself are the degree to which the attraction is sexual as opposed to emotional - and I can really see a difference - and how far I'd be upset if, somehow, it became clear he didn't want sex. If you can honestly address those issues and come up with appropriate answers, then it may be all right to have him as a close friend..... |