No Father
Submitted by BillBo on 2002-08-3 05:37:51, Saturday
In reply to Followup to Curious submitted by Drifter on 2002-08-2 23:14:25, Friday
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I can't remember exactly what I said in my response to Curious. But I am certain that my lack of a dad/father as a boy did not help. What I am surprised is that I never became gay, cos I had all the classic environmental factors to encourage that direction. No father, dominant mother, boys boarding schooling, lack of females around in my early to mid-teens ... But somehow I did show an interest in girls even as young as 13 (I remember having my arm around one in the stern of my motor boat when 3 friends and I were camping!) and certainly feel "in love" a few times at 17 and afterwards. BUT my experiences with other boys from 11 yrs onwards also fixed a BL orientation. I just didn't graduate in my male desires to older guys as the years went by. I am now married (and I think happily) have two sons (now older) who I kept my hands off - but certainly made sure they knew I cared and loved them. I wasn't going to let them have any form of absentee father! And as far as I can tell they have grown up without any sexual hangups. Only time will tell of course. So my answer is that I believe my lack of father did contribute, but was not the sole reason. |
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