Only you know what's really going on
Submitted by Forgiven on 2002-09-29 12:04:39, Sunday
In reply to A..... is back submitted by curter on 2002-09-29 08:16:13, Sunday
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I've heard of boys going through puberty that late, and it's seriously rough on them; he'll have been the weird one in his class for a long time. So there's a lot of hurt - and your pushing him away would only add to that. But it depends on whether you are safe with him - and only you really know that. Is your response to him emotional or sexual? How far is it each? How safe is the environment you meet him in - are there other people around or just you and him? Is he straight or gay? Do you both have a Christian faith that you both understand to rule out sex outside marriage? Is there a spiritual component to your relationship - do you talk about God together, or even pray together? By being his friend at this time of his life you will be a good thing in his life. But ending up having sex with him would be a negative thing for both of you. Really only you know in your heart whether it is the right thing to do; ask God to make it clear over the next few days. And don't get hung up on issues like 'Will this make him unsure of himself as a male?' We live in a culture that assumes certain things about masculinity that a wider experience of cultures and history show to be ill founded - one of which is that men don't need physical affection.... |
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