Re:It is so good....
Submitted by Chris on 2002-12-27 14:36:06, Friday
In reply to How do you keep your yf relationships healthy? submitted by tigris on 2002-12-23 14:27:45, Monday
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to see someone ask that question. Hi Tigris, You know, just the fact that you are asking that tells me that you probably have little to worry about regarding your behavior around and with your YF. I think I would be a lot more concerned if a person were not asking it or concerned about it, wouldn't you? I found out a years ago, when "L" and I were together a lot and he was quite attractive to me physically, that try as I might, I could not stop the sexual thoughts from comming. While it is indeed helpful to keep God at the center of the relationship (very much so...), and friendly touching situations like nice hugs, etc, are also wonderful for curbing sexual thoughts, nothing ever kept them from happening altogether. I had to face it, I am a sexual creature just like every other human being ever created. But I also saw that there was another thing I could "face" that made things like this far less frustrating. Although we are sexual "creatures", we are also given a gift to help us deal with this aspect of life. We are given the ability to choose our own actions. It is a complete and asurd falicy that we have been led to believe (by people who should know better), that just because the object of our desire is not the heterosexual norm, we experience our sexual feelings in stronger or differant ways. We do not. While we have had to resort to ways other than a sexual relationship with another person in order to relieve ourselves of built-up tension (you know...the "M" word...), we are NOT rapists just because we like boys instead of women. I spent years of my life worrying about the day that I just knew was going to come; the day that I would just "go nuts" and rape, or have some kind of sex with, an underage boy. And it was society itself that led me to that wrong way of thinking. My relationship with "L" actually served to prove it quite wrong. So has my relationship with God! I think you will be quite alright, Tigris. Just keep your heart and relationships centered on the Father, and let Him take care of the rest. Believe me, when you trust in Him, He will not dissapoint you. He always gives His children the ability to do His will. He never asks us to do anything without first giving us the proper "equitpment" with which to do it. After all, His glory lies within our revelation of Him to the world, dosen't it? You will do just fine with your friendship as long as He is at the center of it, brother. God Bless!!! Love in Christ Jesus, Chris |
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