Hello
Submitted by F.O.D. on February 15 1999 at 16:52:31
In reply to New to this Group Submitted by Gunner64 on February 02 1999 at 22:31:29
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Hi Gunner, I've been waiting for you to appear more often here! My background is also conservative evangelical (I'm not sure if that counts as "fundamentalist". Perhaps not) You haven't had enough replies yet, have you? Well, you still won't unless I reply! In terms of a positive integration of Christian faith and being sexually attracted to boys, I really have to say the "witchhunt" attitude in society has me concerned. What I mean is that the first and most obvious thing we can do with our sexual feelings is to channel them so that we are spending time with boys in encouraging them, teaching them, helping them to become men, while not sharing with our boys our sexual feelings. We have the right to do that, the right to love. But the problem with the current climate is that people are taking away our right to love (and I mean love, not "have sex with"), and that is Wrong. Either a man feels intimidated by all the witchhunt stories and so feels incapable or giving a boy a hug, or even talking to him, or, like a report given today at BC, in Britain they are making laws where paedophiles are to be locked away even if they haven't done anything. Robbing a man of his right to show concern for someone else - I don't think I can think of much that is more evil. But for you, from the scriptures, I'll say this: "But the fruit of the Spirit is love...Against such things there is no law" Gal 5:22-23 I guess I'm saying recognise your freedom to love. But as for the sexual feelings themselves, for me I'm trying to make sense of it by putting it into the context of same-sex relationships in general. That's why I've been asking so many questions about homosexuality. If we have in fact been interpreting the Bible incorrectly when we say that homosexuality is wrong in God's eyes, if in fact same-sex relations are not universally condemned, then constructive sense can be made of boylove by seeing your "lover's" childhood as a time for you to bring him up into maturity and show committed love to him without sex, so that he becomes the mature person that you can keep loving, including the sexual side. F.O.D. |